The nature of reality, in my own personal opinion, is simple.
We are having an experience. There is no such thing as TRUE free will, as every action is really a reaction to a previous stimulus. Our behaviour is based on previous experience, and our beliefs are built up from the moment we leave the womb, coming initially from our treatment from the mother, then the rest of the family, and gradually expands through society and the people that come into contact with us. What may seem like a small action to the adult will be a big event to the child, who has spent just a moment on this earth, and these expriences will gradually fade into the background of our memory, but patterns of behaviour will continue to manifest. Even in the most “evil” of our kind, there is normally an event, or series of events, that trigger a belief of something abnormal being OK. Without excusing the actions of these people, there is a root. If you grew up in a household as a boy, and the father was frequently abusive to the mother, but always kind to you, then as an innocent(ignorant) child, the father would be glorified. He was awesome to you, so she must have deserved it – this awesome guy told you that all women were bitches and weren’t worth the air they breathed, so as a child, he believes it. As he grows up, this belief prevails and is regularly mysoginistic. In early youth, the only environment you understand is this one you are subjected to.
Equally, another boy grew up in a household where mum and dad were both awesome, and loved each other. Dad treated mum like a queen, mum treated dad like a king, and taught you that’s how you treat a woman. So the boy goes off into adulthood with this behavioural pattern and is a gentleman to the opposite sex, and expects that women are all like mum. However, he is unfortunate enough to have a few girlfriends who, through their own life patterns, have a resentment towards men, and treat the boy like a doormat. His beliefs are shattered, and he feels lost. He assumes that noone exists like his mother anymore, and resentment for women ensues.
The list goes on. Brought up in a run down area where a violent, almost tribal mentality ensues, where your parents have a hatred towards the family down the street? You’ll pick up on that too. Did your upper middle class parents see the poorer classes as scum? You will too.
These are short examples amongst a multitude – we all have our stories. Everything is a reaction to something else. Some sense can be pulled out of the madness, however difficult the truth is to swallow. It is incredibly difficult to change belief, because they come from our personal reality that we have went through to this moment. A change in belief is difficult because without solid experience, it’s hard to take anothers word as true.
So, with this lack of free will, how do make make sense of it all? The idea can be disturbing, as it was to me when I first came to this realisation, that I don’t really have control over my life. Even this realisation was the product of an event and reaction. After time though, I realised that this was not something to be feared, but rather welcomed, and comforting. I can now stop, think, and question my behaviour. Am I behaving in this manner because it’s right, or because my beliefs have led me to this conclusion despite fallacy? I can now step out of my beliefs and look at them in a more logical manner. And the most wonderful part is, I can now forgive myself for where I have went wrong in the past. I can also forgive others for discrepancies against myself, because I understand that everyone else is subject to this event-reaction system. It doesn’t mean that the behaviour was correct, it means that they weren’t aware that they were doing wrong. ALWAYS try to understand a persons nature.
The purpose of part one of this post is hopefully to awaken people to this realisation. Even as I type, this is a reaction, I am now aware that my will is pre-destined to some degree, and it has led me here, and your story has led you to this post. if your beliefs are too reinforced, then you will poopoo this off as nonsense. If not, then this will resonate. Realisations like this are what I would refer to as a form of Gnosis, or Enlightenment. You will look at the world in a new light, and other people too. Forgiveness is not such a difficult thing anymore, and as a result, the cycles of vengeance for past discrepancies is ended. I sincerely hope that this idea becomes infectious and spreads. Start viewing people you don’t know as entire universes unto themselves, rather than just background objects outwith your sphere. No, that doesn’t mean greeting everyone you meet in the street with a huge hug, it just means having a little respect despite not knowing them personally. We all like our space, and sometimes we just can’t be bothered talking to new people, it’s nothing personal.
Now that we’ve done a little groundwork, who fancies a trip down the rabbithole with me? Tune into part two, and keep an open mind, as you will be astounded by what you’ll discover.